Training tip: Reward for Relaxation

This seems like a no-brainer, but it’s not reflected in how most people interact with their dogs. I see it all the time - people complain about their dog’s barking, reactivity, or separation anxiety, but the way they relate to their dog is all about excitement.

What does this mean? It means you talk to your dog in a high-pitched voice, play with them when they get excited, and basically help get them riled up.

It feels good when our dogs are excited to see us, but if your dog runs to the door when you get home and is beside themselves with excitement, that’s a sign of separation anxiety. The more you feed into it by giving them an excited greeting, the more you’re encouraging their separation anxiety. Similarly, if your dog has issues with reactivity, getting them worked up before a walk by talking to them excitedly and letting them jump around is going to gear them up to react at the first trigger they see.

Instead, encourage any calm behavior you see in your dog. If your dog has leash reactivity, practice showing your dog their leash and waiting for them to calm down before putting it on them. Slow down the process of leaving for a walk, waiting for relaxation at every stage. The calmer your dog is when you leave for your walk, the calmer they will be on the walk and when they see their triggers.

Reward your dog with treats, affection, or attention when they’re showing you calm, relaxed behavior, and do your best to ignore hyperactive or anxious behavior.